The Women are Gathering: Balancing Divine Feminine and Masculine Post-Election

Today the same conflict my husband and I have been cycling through on and off for our entire relationship came to another head. “This is it,” I said. “I won’t stand for it.”  I’ve said these words before, but something felt different.

It seems I’ve gone to the next level of speaking up and drawing my line in the sand about how I want to be treated and spoken to.  This reminds me of the spiral of healing.  I’ve been here before so many times, and yet I have come around again to learn and master the next part of the lesson. This time around, my husband is acknowledging the shift. He says to me, “I’m acting the same, but you have less tolerance for it.”This is not exactly true. In other moments he gives himself more credit for the steps he’s taken to break out of his old patterns. But it is true that my relationship to his behavior and my response to it is changing.

A few hours after the apex of our conflict, my friend called.  I gave her a snapshot of my experience and it turns out she was having the exact same experience with her husband. And then it occurred to me - The women are gathering.  This is happening because the women are gathering.

Over this past few years, my friend and I have been expanding our circles of sisterhood and spending more time in groups of women where we celebrate and honor our feminine power.  It is in these circles that we rise above the fear and belief that we’re not good enough.  With the support of other women, we see our gifts and own them, and learn how to translate them into positive action.  In circle, women help each other bring our best selves to ourselves, our families, our communities, and to the world.

The women were already starting to gather, and now they’re gathering even more.  Trump’s participation in the election and subsequent rise to Presidential status has raised the energy of women fighting for their right to have power to a whole new level.  I realized after my friend shared her experience with me, that we’re being affected not just by our local communities of women’s circles, but by the huge swell of activity in the country around women’s rights to have voice and equality.

I thought back to the conflict with my husband, and thought, Holy Shit, we’re in the current of modern social evolution. We’re doing our unique dance, but also the dance of the culture at large. What’s happening between us is part of meta progression.

When I say to my husband, I want you to back me up, and trust in my ability to lead, I’m also saying: I will no longer doubt myself, nor will I accept being treated like I don’t know what I’m doing.”  I am capable.  Women are just as capable.  I am tired of men stepping in and taking over, and mistrusting my decisions.
I do know what I’m doing. I’ve known what I’m doing all along.

I thank my circles of both women and men for helping me return to the place inside of me that knows that I know.  From this place, I see that I am healing, and that my husband and I are helping each other to heal as well.  As angry I was with him this weekend, I was also experiencing him staying close with me, listening to me, reflecting on what I was saying, and honoring it.

My husband and I, we’re part of a movement. Women are gathering and women are rising. The men we walk with are gathering and rising too.

This is the moment when I am filled with gratitude and feeling inspired by the pain I’ve been experiencing. It’s the calm after the storm, the benefit of going through all the moments that felt so hard and intolerable.
This is where we are. This is our part. I re-commit to all of it.